Kitchen remodel in Seattle

How do I keep from fighting with my significant other during a remodel?

Let’s first determine what causes couples to fight during a remodel. There are the obvious ones; stress, money and disrupted schedules.  

Remodels by their very nature are stressful. Someone is going to come into your home and rip it apart. You need to trust this person and the plans they will be following. Does everyone show up when they say they will? Does everyone return calls and emails in a timely fashion? Do they have a personality you can deal with at the end of each day?

Make sure both spouses like and are comfortable working with all designers, General Contractors, and tradespeople on the project and that ALL parties are communicative with ALL stakeholders (spouses) during the process. They should all be respectful of you, your children, your pets, and your property. 

The money needed for a remodel can be significant. Not having a plan will most definitely increase the cost and arguments. There are many details to work out and items to consider before you even think about the physical portion of the process. Making sure your project is fully funded before-hand is extremely important.  Know how you are going to pay for it and have that money accessible. If your situation changes at any time, make sure you communicate these changes with each other and to the people you are working with.  

Make sure the space has been fully explored, as many existing conditions as possible have been discovered and the work you need done is clearly documented. Previous work done to a home may not be up to code or was never permitted. You may also discover the work you need done requires you to upgrade other systems in your home. These may require additional money.  We can discover many of these items through research with the city and by fully documenting the existing conditions.  

Do not underestimate the effect of not having a working bathroom or kitchen.  Schedules will be disrupted, and nerves will be frayed. 

Make sure you have a plan for how you will deal with this. Will you set up a kitchenette in the basement or a corner of the living room with a microwave and small fridge? Will you eat out every night? Or will you simply move to a hotel and not have to deal with any of it? Know these costs and include them in your budget! The more each family member knows, the more easily everyone can adjust their schedules and expectations.

Most of the above scenarios can be avoided or mitigated with careful planning. Don’t call someone, whether friend, the family or ‘a guy you know,’ to come into your home and start ripping it apart without first; documenting your existing space and all the known conditions, second; having detailed floor plans and elevations for the new space, and third; having a well-documented scope of work with at least 3 bids (not estimates) for the project. 

If you begin a remodel with these items in place, your chances for success increase greatly! And your chances of staying together in your newly remodeled home also increase! 

Not a very sexy of way of looking at a relationship, I know, but if you didn’t already have the other stuff that I am not addressing here… well… a remodel wasn’t going to fix it. 

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